Surviving Infidelity: Can Your Marriage Survive Infidelity?

Every year, couples around the world are faced with the ordeal of one or, in some cases, both of them cheating on their partner. Some current statistics are beginning to show that up to 80% of marriages will at some point have difficulty survive infidelity, with men being more likely to cheat than women. However, when it comes to infidelity. as women become more self-sufficient both financially and emotionally, they begin to act more like their male counterparts.

And it’s a terrible experience to go through.

But you are not alone.

Infidelity is the cause of horrible depression, heartbreak, and devastating pain and leaves one or both spouses feeling lost and clueless as to what to do next in their efforts to survive the infidelity. And worst of all, the affair shouldn’t have happened in the first place.

Usually, an affair is the result of one or the other of the spouses trying to rediscover or find something that has come out of their marriage. They are trying to rediscover some essential element that they feel has been missing from their existing relationship and they are desperate to find it. The consequence of this is that they become vulnerable to an affair.

And the most important thing to understand is that the matter was not your fault in any way!

Obviously, no marriage is perfect and all marriages have something wrong with them. You will be responsible for causing part of the problem and you may have done some things wrong in your relationship, but you did not force your spouse into an affair. They CHOOSE to do it. Understanding THAT is the key to unlocking the secret that will help you survive infidelity and save your relationship or marriage from the devastation of an affair.

You MUST admit…the adventure WASN’T YOUR FAULT!

So you need to ask the question:-

1. Can our marriage survive infidelity?

2. Is our marriage worth saving?

3. Do I want the marriage to survive infidelity?

Your marriage can definitely survive infidelity if you have answered yes to any of these questions. Your chances of being able to survive infidelity have already increased considerably.

Fixing your marriage requires you to follow a proven system. It’s not a matter of doing a lot of hard work. The system requires you to do all the right things, in the right order. Things like communicating, asking for forgiveness, reading self-help books, praying, sending letters, cards, and flowers, being more mindful, going to counseling, setting limits, discussing details, answering all questions, and meeting the needs of others.

You may have used some or all of these methods in the past with varying degrees of success, but you have probably used them in the wrong order. Take the importance of communication, for example. Most people will agree that communication is vital to surviving infidelity. Nearly 1,100 couples were recently surveyed and of those who showed a willingness to survive infidelity and were willing to discuss their problems, 86% have stayed together. Of those who chose not to discuss it, only 55% are still married.

However, talking about the details of the adventure and how you both feel in the early stages of surviving an adventure can have a negative impact. It can only succeed in confirming negative feelings. All those emotions of anger, pain and bewilderment that are still so fresh in your memory will come back to the surface and you may not be able to deal with it.

Also, in the early stages, most couples, after discussing their relationship and their feelings for each other, will experience an initial deterioration in their relationship. Therefore, unless both spouses are psychologically and emotionally prepared to move on, any discussion at this stage will be in vain and could be very detrimental to your chances of surviving the infidelity.

That’s why it’s so important to do all the right things in the right order to give yourself the best chance of surviving infidelity in your marriage.