Not giving advice
As you start reading this article, appreciate the contradiction. How can I write an article titled “Don’t Give Advice” without appearing to give advice on that topic? Can not. Wow, this was the shortest article I’ve ever written.
How about a proposition, a statement of my opinion, with a couple of examples to support that opinion? So unless you are an expert in a particular subject, trained, in possession of degrees or certificates attesting to that training, and have practical experience, I suggest that you “should not give advice outside of that subject area.” This is a low risk legal guide. However, you may have some legitimately helpful advice for others, even if you don’t have any certificates or sophisticated training.
Writing on this topic is therapy for me. I struggle with the idea of no advise adult members of my family, my friends, and (everyone else, as readers of my articles). I want everyone to benefit from my experiences. Unfortunately, I have learned that my noble intention does not usually produce a predictable result. My advice or suggestions to family and friends (on moral issues, finances, jobs, and family upbringing) have fallen short or even backfired. It makes me feel like I’ve done something wrong, that I’m guilty of a miserable outcome. Maybe I shouldn’t have given the advice in the first place.
A saying in the United States Army: “If you break it, you own it.” In this case, by giving advice that someone else used, I somehow own the break that occurs, although I warned them that “this is their decision.” Do you see that giving advice is an enigma, a difficult task? Why is that? Simple answer: Adults, even those close to you, must make their own decisions, and they make them based on their current age and level of experience.
They usually receive their advice through the association of colleagues. If you are older, and even if they agree that you are wise, your advice sounds like “the answer” to them, and they may follow and use it without understanding. That is why it is your fault (in their opinion) if your advice doesn’t work for them. Someone you love may say to you, “You gave me bad advice,“which means,” Your advice sucks, man! “Oh!
Colossians 2: 4-15 web search. The Christian apostle Paul, in a Roman prison, received word from a member of one of the Christian churches, which Paul founded, that “the membership is well ordered, but those who would deceive Christians are also there.” By letter, Paul guided the Christians, saying: “He is with them in spirit, if not in body (because he is in prison).” It reminded them of the big picture (they were saved by their faith in Jesus Christ), that there is no other authority in heaven or on earth (Matthew 28:18).
So don’t give any advice. Identify the authority and responsibility under that authority. That being said, any individual should understand that (big picture) is the right thing to do and why. The advice is about excuse me do something, and the how varies. It is not your business to advise another person on excuse me Everything is done.