Gays: nurture or nature?

“Hey, quick look, look at that guy over there”, let’s face the fact that these are the stereotypical comments that we tend to pass by whenever we come across a person like that in our midst, but most likely we try to isolating this person just because they are a bit different, can you justify this? Let’s start with the basics. A gay is generally a person who is sexually attracted to the same sex, can be addressed as homosexual. Today we will examine the intricacies of this, as well as the reasons and controversies associated with it. Intensive research has been carried out to find the possible genetic, hormonal, developmental, social and cultural influences on sexual orientation, but no finding has been able to prove that these feelings that arise within an individual are determined by a specific factor.

One of the controversies claims that less gender socialization in early childhood or preadolescence may ultimately result in a same-sex romantic preference. Few reports also claim that higher rates of fetal loss, low birth weight, and physical deformity can cause developmental disruption. Ultimately, it can result in driving these individuals toward homosexuality. If we look deeper, there are a variety of psychological reasons that can eventually lead an individual to become homosexual. We will watch them carefully. The first is unhealthy childhood relationships with women. Who says that only men can hurt girls? Girls in multiple ways do the same with any existing man in their environment. If we consider women, it includes mothers, sisters, female relatives and other extended family members. Criticizing one for his weaknesses, lowering his morale can cause lasting feelings of shame, insecurity and lack of self-confidence, which is mandatory for one’s survival in this dog-eat-dog world.

Feminize the man, pass on embarrassing comments and try to sexualize him by commenting and making fun of the body shape. It may seem like a joke but it has disastrous effects causing the male to distance himself from the females, rejecting them or developing hatred towards them, on the contrary, there are many possibilities that males feel threatened by women and prefer to establish a relationship with a woman. same sex as a safer option making him homosexual. In childhood, after encountering unhealthy relationships with women, a man’s concept of women may become distorted and therefore distanced and he perceives all women as dominant, powerful, controlling, and manipulative.

Due to these experiences, a man can feel dominated, inferior and develop complexes. Thus, feeling unable to enter into a relationship with a woman, therefore the individual finds it better to be with a partner of the same sex. The consequences are such that one begins to feel incongruous with his own gender, as he perceives himself as inappropriate and ineffective. Constant accusations of being called feminine can cause the unconscious mind to be drawn to men. Sexual abuse by men and early exposure to pornography can also help to intensify homosexuality. Have you ever been a victim of abuse or child abuse? There are chances that you are prone to this. As we are living in the 21st century there are many cultural influences that have greatly affected the current generations. The culture of homosexuality is something that arouses curiosity and the desire to explore new paths. Pro-gay sex education and also representations of homosexuality as casual behavior have led a person to choose a ‘gay’ life.

Is it right or wrong? Acceptable or unacceptable? We are nobody to judge this. All we can do is treat all people with equality and respect. We can not?