How to heal after domestic violence
Domestic violence, by definition, involves physical and often verbal abuse by one party against another in a romantic relationship. In many countries, domestic violence is a crime, but in some countries it is not. Algeria, Burkina Faso, Latvia and the Russian Federation are some of the countries where it is not a crime. Domestic violence takes place among the poor, the middle class, and the wealthy. It takes place and inflicts on both the educated and the uneducated. However, whether it is a crime or not, anyone who has left an abusive relationship will need to heal. The following are some suggestions to help in this process.
watch a comedy movie
At first, this may be difficult to do, especially if you have spent many years attending to the needs and wants of the abusive partner. However, taking care of yourself can be done. So, you can take care of yourself by taking some time to watch a comedy movie at home. After you’ve chosen a movie that you and no one else wants to see, sit down with, or without, some food, and watch the movie without interruption.
As you watch, when your funny bone is tickled, laugh out loud, but be careful, your laugh may turn into tears and that’s okay. Cry, if necessary, it will also come in handy.
plant a garden
Plant a garden if you have access to land, but if you don’t have access to land, but do have access to an area where pots can be placed, use those instead. Plant a flower, a fruit, a vegetable or any garden you would like to have. It doesn’t have to be a big or small garden, just one you’re happy with.
This activity can help calm your thoughts and feelings, and sometimes after gardening, you may even walk away with answers to questions that have been troubling you.
go on vacation
This is one of the main ones and you may not be able to do it right away. If money is not a problem, other obligations such as work, children’s schooling, etc. it can affect you. Therefore, whenever possible, take a vacation. You can visit a country that you have always wanted to visit or you can revisit a place that you have visited. On the other hand, vacations do not have to be in another country, it can be a “staycation”, as some would say. That is, vacation in the country where you live.
No matter where you go, the important thing is that you get away for at least three days and allow yourself to enjoy this vacation.
those who will build you
Stay and stay close to those who will build you up and not tear you down. Of course, this is pretty self explanatory, but it may be easier said than done. However, it can be done, but sometimes it will take time.
Spend time with those who would and are trying to build you up and not tear you down. Don’t put off spending time with them. Talk to them on the phone, on a computer, and definitely in person.
take time
Do not force healing. Everyone heals at their own pace, so don’t compare yourself to others. The healing process for one person can take a year, while for another person it can take five years, but what matters is that he heals, then he continues to heal. Heal at your own pace.
A victim of domestic violence does not need anyone to tell her how crushing spirit, soul and body such violence can be. Therefore, healing is necessary after leaving such a situation.
Watch a comedy movie, plant a garden, go on vacation, surround yourself with those who will make you strong and give you time to heal.