Eating Disorders: Anorexia isn’t just about what you see in the mirror

I read an article the other day that actually said, “Anorexia is about what you see in the mirror.” I wanted to scream!

I’m not saying that an eating disorder has nothing to do with what girls see in the mirror. But for someone to make an emphatic statement like that implies that it is ALL about anorexia.

It is misleading and written by someone who does not understand eating disorders. I cannot affirm strongly enough; Anorexia and bulimia are not just about what you see in the mirror.

This belief is part of the reason why people don’t have enough empathy or compassion for people with eating disorders. They think it is the disorder of “vanity”. It is not.

An eating disorder is a complex mental disorder. There are many things that contribute to the development of anorexia or bulimia.

Research shows that there is an important biological component in the development of eating disorders. Many girls have mothers, brothers, aunts, or cousins ​​who have or have had eating disorders.

There is so much online and you have to be careful what you believe. I can’t stress enough to research multiple sources to make sure the information you’re getting is accurate.

One of the main reasons you want accurate information is that you will share what you learn with your child. Imagine telling her that she is simply vain and that this eating disorder is her fault. How will that make you feel? Not only is it wrong; it’s cruel.

Now imagine being able to tell him that this ED is no one’s fault. There are biological issues, temperament and personality that she was born with that predispose her to this disease.

That doesn’t mean you can’t do something about it; it just means that it is not your fault that you are sick. Imagine the difference in how you would feel and your attitude toward recovery when you had the correct information; delivered with compassion and understanding.

You will make all the difference in the world and strengthen your relationship because you understand what is really happening. She blames herself and needs to know that it is not her fault. Make sure you tell them. Help to.