How to know when your ex boyfriend wants you back
Whether you’re looking to get your ex boyfriend back (or just want to find out if he still loves you or not), the following guidelines will help. The signs and signals a guy gives off when he is around or talking to you can go a long way in telling you if he is still interested. And if he has been working on getting back together with his ex, knowing and identifying these signs can be extremely important. Sometimes they can be obvious, but other times your ex could be giving them off without even knowing it.
The following signs are all good indications that your ex boyfriend is thinking of rekindling your romance:
Your ex increases contact with you – Maybe you stayed in touch with your ex after the breakup, or maybe he called you out of the blue. Constant communication is a great sign that your ex doesn’t want to leave your relationship entirely, but a sudden increase in the amount of contact can tell a different story. If your ex wants you back, he will pick up the pace. He will start emailing you, texting you, and making frequent phone calls just to chat with you. The topic of these conversations can turn romantic, but probably not right away. More telling is the fact that she is paying you more attention than usual.
Her ex boyfriend asks about her dating situation – Wanting to know the status of your love life seems like a friendly question, but coming from an ex-boyfriend he always has ulterior motives. When your ex is considering dating you again, the first thing they’ll need to know is whether or not you’re interested in someone else. Knowing that you pursue other interests will save him from being rejected from asking you out. So if you’re looking to get back with her ex, be sure to give her the green light here.
He goes out of his way to tell you he’s single – Casually talking to your ex can be very strange when it comes to dating other people. After all, they have a long and intimate history together…jealousy could still linger on both sides. Most guys will avoid talking about new love interests or girlfriends. But what if your ex starts emphasizing the fact that she’s not dating anyone? She is most likely testing the waters to see if you are interested in giving your relationship another chance. If you want your boyfriend back, this is always a great sign.
Your ex brings up the past – When a relationship ends, there is usually bad blood between the two participants. Over time, memories of fights and arguments begin to fade, leaving only the good times behind. Bringing up the good times you two had together is your ex boyfriend’s way of saying, “Hey, look at that! Wasn’t that fun? Maybe we should do it again!” Anyone who brings up the past does so for a very good reason: they want to rekindle some old sparks. If he wasn’t interested in seeing you again, your ex probably wouldn’t mention these times for fear of giving you the wrong idea.
Your ex boyfriend invites you to lunch – This is the classic opening move for a guy trying to get back in a relationship with an ex-girlfriend. The “lunch” is the most innocent of encounters; it is usually short, to the point, and in a neutral location. There’s no danger of awkward pauses or a long time after lunch…the two usually go their separate ways. If her ex asks to meet you for a quick meal or a cup of coffee, chances are she’s not doing it just for small talk. “Friends with your ex” is a myth: either you date your ex boyfriend or you don’t. And while some people find themselves trapped in the black hole known as the friend zonefriendship with an ex is never anyone’s true goal.
Suddenly he is attentive to you again – One of the last things that will happen when he is ready to ask you out again, your ex will suddenly become much more appreciative and attentive to you. His behaviors will even mimic the beginning of your old relationship, at the time when he was courting you. If you want to date your ex again, go for it. If not, be very aware of these types of signs. Any radical change in behavior like this usually indicates that the dynamics of your post-breakup relationship are about to change.