A foolproof guide to buying lingerie for your wife or girlfriend
Listen guys, shopping for lingerie for your wife or girlfriend can be an exciting but intimidating task. You might be embarrassed to go into a store, not knowing exactly what to buy, and you definitely don’t want to end up in the doghouse buying the wrong size. And if you give your wife a kinky outfit without proper preparation, she may be offended or reluctant to try that exciting role play. Here are some helpful tips from me to get you started:
Think about why you are buying her lingerie. Is your ultimate goal to buy something that makes her feel good in her own skin, something edgy that she’ll wear under that evening dress for a special occasion, or something classy that makes her feel sexy even when she wears it under her work clothes? ? Or, are you interested in buying an outfit to explore a certain fantasy that one or both of you have? Consider your motivations before you go shopping; this will help you focus on buying the right gift. Keep in mind that most women want to feel sexy and comfortable in their own skin. Those crotchless panties might get your motor running, but if we’re not feeling sexy in them, they probably won’t even get them out of the box.
Get acquainted with your wife or girlfriend’s lingerie drawer. Sure, you probably know what she wears on a regular basis, but do some more research. Check labels to find out what brands you buy and what size you wear. What style of panty do you wear? What types of fabric do you prefer? You’ll want to stick to the tried and true when it comes to brand, size, fabric, and style. Don’t take a chance and buy something out of your typical style, that will ensure your gift will stay in the cupboard or drawer, and you’ll never reap the rewards. If you are buying us a special gift, you can go one step further and buy us the expensive set from our favorite store that we would never buy.
Be careful to note our favorite colors. Do you prefer dark, muted colors or something brighter? If he usually wears black, you can make things more interesting by giving him something deep purple or blue. Red is a great color for lingerie and will really liven things up. A general rule of thumb: dark colors complement fair-skinned women, and lighter colors look great on women with darker skin. Be sure to coordinate pieces from the same outfit, in the same color and style. DO NOT mix and match!
Once you discover our favorite brands, go shopping. If you are going to a store, recruit the salesperson. They are there to help you, so don’t be shy. Let them know our size, what styles and colors we use, and what your budget and intent is. If you’re buying from a website, check the return policy and make sure items can be returned or exchanged for store credit. Also, consider if a gift certificate might be the best option. Sometimes we want to choose our own lace things!
Now, let’s talk about what to do if you have ulterior motives in buying this gift. Let’s say you want to try a little role play and you’ve always fantasized about her in a French Maid outfit or a schoolgirl outfit. Here, preparation and communication are key. You can try various approaches, depending on your communication style. Remember that we want to feel sexy, beautiful and appreciated.
Imagine what would happen if you bought that costume and presented it to her in a gift-wrapped box. Upon opening it, will he let out a whoop of delight and immediately go to try on your gift, or will he bristle at this approach? Consider your communication style and mention this as you would anything new you want to try in the bedroom. Do you talk about sex at the breakfast table? Then bring it up. Is she shy? Never underestimate the power of suggestion! Try to plant an idea for next year’s Halloween costumes; Then, when she goes to try on outfits, corner her in the dressing room and whisper in her ear how sexy she looks and all the things you’d like to do to her. Let her imagination run wild – there’s something for both of you. Keep it fun. Dressing up in a costume can make some women feel silly, but if you focus on how good it looks and how good it will make her feel appreciated, she’ll be much more inclined to try it.