Should I call my ex on his birthday?
So you two dated, and now you’re separated. Weeks later, it’s your ex-girlfriend’s birthday. Do you let the day go by unchecked? Or is it okay to call her, just to let her know you’re thinking of her?
Calling your ex to wish him a happy birthday is always a difficult situation. A number of factors influence whether or not she should make that call, including the amicable manner of her breakup and how long it’s been since she broke up.
Reasons why you should call your ex girlfriend on her birthday
Simply put, you and your ex were very close. They shared holidays, vacations, friends, family and many good times. You also shared some of the most intimate moments two people can have with each other… so what’s the problem with wishing her a happy birthday?
In the end, it all comes down to one thing: do you still want your ex girlfriend back? If so, calling to say happy birthday is a legitimate way to get back into her head, and possibly her life, once again. But what if you were the one who broke up with her? Dialing her number can be misleading and probably not a good idea.
If you decide to contact your ex on his birthday, make sure you do it with a phone call. Don’t text or email, as these are dumb and impersonal ways to communicate after a breakup. Don’t introduce yourself face-to-face either, because that’s not going to work out.
What if you want your ex back? Sending flowers on his birthday is certainly NOT the way to go. This is the case of too much too soon, and it can easily scare your ex before you even start down the road to win her back.
What to say to your ex when you call her
When making the call, be sure to keep the phone conversation simple, clean, and quick. Tell your ex girlfriend that you noticed the date and couldn’t help but think about her today. That alone is a sweet but innocent gesture that cannot go unnoticed by her, and she will most likely appreciate it. Ask her how she’s been, make a sentence or two of small talk, and then tell her you’re sorry but you really have to go. Wish him a happy birthday and go out.
Your conversation should not last more than two or three minutes, maximum. Staying on the phone any longer risks awkward pauses or your ex girlfriend suspecting you might be trying to win her back. Right now, this is not what you want. You just need to plant the seed… to get back in the head of it. However, later on there will be steps you can take to get back together with your ex girlfriend.
Don’t sit there agonizing “should I call my ex” or “shouldn’t I?” Being confident and proactive is a big part of getting your ex to love you back. That said, they can’t get back together without having some kind of plan. A step-by-step plan to win your girlfriend’s heart is always better than trying to roll the dice and hope for the best.