Sex and the sagacious septuagenarian Get ready, sex, go!
There’s no way I’m giving up, “says Lois, a” 70-year-old senior “who still has sex.” The retired Minneapolis accountant no longer has appointment books, but reserve appointments. until I die … and I die if I don’t keep doing it. “
It is true: time is a thief that steals our youth, body and virility. Conventional beliefs describe sexuality as confined to the realms of 18- to 40-year-olds, with the idea that once someone leaves their job, they also withdraw from sex. Think of this as some kind of weird and twisted logic, and challenge it. While the obvious may come into play (or not, for that matter), consider what’s most important to you: staying current or staying current. With the first wave of baby boomers entering their 60s, older adults make up the fastest growing segment of the U.S. population. However, the lack of reliable information on how sexual activity and function can change with sexual activity. Age and illness, not to mention sexually transmitted diseases, combined with taboos about talking about sex in adulthood, contribute to worry or even embarrassment for many older adults. “This shouldn’t be the case,” insists Paul Hammond, MFT, a relationship specialist and lifestyle coach in San Diego who specializes in senior issues. “If people are ready and willing to change old-fashioned attitudes, they are ready and willing to make specific changes.”
We must we must we must improve our lust
Let’s face it: just aging, medical conditions, and treatments can interfere with how you function. American men spend more than a billion dollars each year on drugs to improve sexual function. Despite frequent problems, 38% of men and 22% of women discussed sex with a doctor from the age of 50. Men were more likely to do so, perhaps because effective medications are available. Almost 14% of men reported taking medications specifically to improve sexual function. The most common female problems included low sex drive, vaginal lubrication difficulties, and inability to climax and a 2007 study in the New England Journal of Medicine reported that 73 percent of people in the age group 57 to 64 years and 53 percent of those aged 65 to 74 reported having had sex with a partner in the previous year. Among people 75 to 85 years old, about 36 percent were still sexually active.
Lose the wear of the butter
Are you a walking nightmare? Really? No Silly Routines – Although Oprah claimed her personality wasn’t on her thighs, if there’s a need to downsize, lose the lies and alibis. “My husband left me after 20 years,” laments Georgia, a native of New York who admitted “letting me go … I bought the stereotype that love is love and I believed that my appearance did not matter. I believed that my husband “still loved me,” but I didn’t admit to the fact that he was no longer attracted to me. By the time I realized it, it was too late. He and his little twenty-something are expecting their first child one day. now. “In truth, health is wealth, especially in the bedroom. For both men and women, people who rated their health as poor were less likely to be sexually active and more likely to report sexual problems. Overall, 38% of the men in the study and 22% of the women reported ever having discussed sex with their doctor after age 50.
So this one is obvious. Break out of boredom and go to bed – Vogue may never stampede you, but you owe it to yourself and any potential partner to take care of yourself. Look in the mirror and be objective. With the myriad of lotions, potions, accessories, documents, and paraphernalia that didn’t exist a generation ago, it’s readily available. Instead of being a bunch of whining, shed your buttery clothes and get off the couch and get rid of that bag!
Go for the daring
“Where in the world would you find someone?” asks genuinely puzzled Lewis, a 72-year-old widower who “hasn’t dated anyone in 52 years and has no idea where to start.” The retired St. Paul butcher married his high school sweetheart at 19 and recently lost her to cancer. “And besides,” he laments, “at my age, where would I look?” With that attitude, it’s time to drop the naysayers and be a gamble: “There are a lot of avenues open for everyone these days,” says Linda Lewis, a Las Vegas matchmaker who specializes in senior affairs. “A little social media may be all you need. Be cautious and give it a try!”
You don’t have to shut yourself up with someone forever, but a little company can do wonders. In case you haven’t read the recent statistics, loneliness can streamline work for even the most physically healthy seniors. The Association for the Advancement of Retired Persons estimates that 15.4 percent of men and women over 50 are divorced, 6.25 percent have never married, and 4.4 percent are widowers. In fact, residents of assisted living and such facilities are aware of such characteristics as a staff recreation therapist; I mean, camaraderie practically 24 hours a day, 7 days a week: coffee, bingo, you know. What are the effects of chronic loneliness? According to recent research, chronic loneliness is a serious, life-threatening condition. At least one study has empirically correlated it with an increased risk of cancer, especially for those who hide their loneliness from the outside world, and it is also associated with an increased risk of stroke and cardiovascular disease. Loneliness has been directly correlated with depression and is a high risk factor for suicide, alcoholism, and substance abuse. Now we wouldn’t want that, would we? So look outside of your
The magic potion to restore the HE-Motion?
So what do you think? Men reported erectile dysfunction as the most common problem, with 37% reporting some level of difficulty achieving an erection. Of all the men in the study, 14% were taking some type of drug for sexual function.
A representative sample of 3,005 American adults ages 57 to 85 (male and female) found that sexual activity varied by age:
- 73% of Americans ages 57 to 64 reported being sexually active.
- 53% of people aged 65 to 74 reported being sexually active.
For both men and women, people who rated their health as poor were less likely to be sexually active and more likely to report sexual problems. Overall, 38% of the men in the study and 22% of the women reported ever having discussed sex with their doctor after age 50 and: women reported less sexual activity than men, perhaps due to the lower life expectancy for men; that is, there are fewer men to have sex in the older age groups.
But wait: there is hope and help. There are numerous possibilities:
- Herbal remedies
- Meditation / Yoga
- Activities to reduce stress
- Pharmaceutical products
GIVE A GOOD BED!
A consultation with your healthcare provider can get you back on track and back on track!
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The joys of toys
Do you feel funny and shy? There are a myriad of pleasures waiting for you and your partner, so why hesitate? If it’s consensual, try it. According to recent statistics, older people make up a much larger population of gamers in the toy world. Let’s hear it for the joys!
No more excuses! Start living and loving! Emphasize:
- Make an appointment with your healthcare provider for a complete physical exam.
- Review all of the medications you currently use with your healthcare provider. Some may impede your ability to perform.
- Maintain a healthy weight (this should go without saying).
- Watch your diet (see above).
- Discuss the possibility of medications to improve or restore libido.
- Consider sexual enhancements (again, see above)
- Consider social networking sites.
Have fun and start living!