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My girlfriend wants space: what does it mean?

My girlfriend wants space: what does it mean?

Space of the last frontier. In this case, it could also be the final nail in the coffin of your relationship.

A bride asking for ‘space’ is looking for something completely different. You could also use the phrase ‘time apart’ or something like ‘slow down for a while’. But no matter how you say it, what your girl says, and what she really means, are two completely different things.

What does it mean when your girlfriend wants time apart

A breakup is pretty cut and dry. You stop dating, you stop seeing each other, you stop sleeping together. They both go, on different paths, in different directions, to complete the rest of their lives without each other.

A “break” is much, much different. Every time your girlfriend asks for space, a break, or time off, she’s really asking for two things:

1) She wants the freedom to do whatever she wants, without answering you more. And yes, this includes the possibility of her dating other people.

2) While she does this? Your girlfriend wants you to wait for her like a complete fool.

Yes it’s correct. You’re supposed to sit like a good boy until SHE decides when she’s had enough space. You can’t ask when the break will end, because she “doesn’t know.” Every time you call or text her, she’ll tell you that you’re bothering her and not giving her the “space” she asks for.

Over time you will wonder where it is. You will be dying to know the status of your relationship. are you broken Is he dating someone else? You will feel hopeless and helpless, an emotional wreck who can’t even get a status update on whether or not he has a girlfriend.

THIS is what to expect when you agree to give your girlfriend ‘space’.

What to do when he tells you he wants time apart

If your girlfriend wants to take a break from her relationship, you should call her bluff. It’s that simple, it’s that simple. Anything else she can do, like agreeing to dump her relationship into a giant limbo volcano, will only drive her further apart…or permanently, depending on how things go.

She wants time apart? Tell him he can have ALL the time in the world, because you’re not waiting.

She wants space? Give it so much room that your girlfriend starts getting checks from NASA.

It’s a simple counter-rejection technique that immediately stops your girlfriend and blows up any silly plans she may have had. She sits you down to tell you that things are too stifling for her and she wants some breathing room (or whatever) and you just tell her this:

“Yeah no no thanks. I don’t DO the whole ‘time apart’ thing. Either you go out with me or you don’t. Those are your choices. Let’s give each other a shit break.”

As your girl stands there trying to pick her jaw up off the ground, tell her to take it easy and walk away. BOOM! You just destroyed anything and everything she wanted to do during the ‘break’, because from this point on, you turned it into a breakup.

Now you’re thinking “this is not what I want”. I get it. But you know what? It’s not what SHE wants either. That’s why doing it this way is such an effective tactic. Instead of being defensive, you have gone completely on the offensive. Instead of being subservient to what she wanted, you just reached out and took all the power.

Why Refusing ‘Break’ Always Works

Think of it this way: If your girlfriend wanted to break up with you, she would have. She would have sat you down and told you that it was all over, totally and completely, and then she would have left.

But that’s not what happened. It’s not what she did. Instead of breaking up with you, he told you he wanted ‘time apart’. This is completely different, and here’s why:

When your girlfriend asks you for space it is because she’s not sure she wants to break up with you. Essentially, you’re giving the breakup a test. If she misses you and realizes that she still loves you? All he has to do is tell you that the ‘time apart’ is over. You run back and everything is as usual.

However, if during the trial breakup she decides she doesn’t really need you. you’re gone. The relationship is over, and the worst part of all: It may not even tell you when it’s over.. Your girlfriend might start seeing another guy or dating someone else, and instead of having the awkward “hey, we’re done” conversation, she’ll leave you hanging in relationship limbo wondering when, and if, she’s ever going to be. to return

Fuck all that.

Rejecting the ‘separation time’ works because you are showing STRENGTH. You’re not going to lie down and let him run you over. You’re showing a backbone and telling him “Hell no, I’m not going to sit around like a fool while you make all the decisions regarding our relationship.” You’d rather lose everything than give him 100% power.

So what does your girlfriend see? She sees a boy who is essentially independent. A guy who might not even need her, at least as much as she thought you needed her. Suddenly, your happiness doesn’t totally depend on her. His stock just went up. You just became so much more desirable as a boyfriend and as a MAN.

What to do if you’re already on a break

Now if you’re already on a break? You are in trouble. Fortunately, though, you’re not completely lost just yet.

If your girlfriend has already put your romance on ice, there are instant reversal techniques you can use to turn things around right away. Some of these require you to contact your ex, so when you do, make sure you know when to do it and exactly what to say when you call.

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