How to choose the right marriage partner for your life
I remember when I was young. He dreamed of having a wonderful family with a beautiful and charming wife. I looked up to some ladies at all stages of my life and felt like getting into a love relationship. What I realized is that as I got older, I felt like the people I liked kept changing. I guess the same thing happens to any young person as they grow up. The good thing is that I made the first of the most important decisions in life, that is, accepting Jesus Christ as my Savior. That positioned me correctly with God the Creator for guidance in making life decisions. So when I was in college, I met my real life partner, but I didn’t propose to her while she was there, but she was in my heart at the time. I dropped her off at college. Guess what? I got there later and made a proposal and she agreed.
I want to share with you what I think can help you choose the right spouse for you:
1. Start by making the first important decision
The first most important decision in life is to make Jesus Christ the Lord of your life. He is the Creator of all things. Do you remember that God introduced Eve to Adam? That means that God knows what is right for you. Even if it doesn’t happen exactly as it did with Adam, God will guide you by his Spirit. Seek His guidance. The Bible encourages us to pray without ceasing. It shouldn’t be trial and error when it comes to choosing a life partner. Trial and error leads to some unfortunate results and some are irreversible.
2. Choose someone you already know
Well, some claim to have special insights into such decisions, but if you don’t, find someone you know. I myself did not have a special revelation. It helps to have people that you engage in certain activities with at different stages of your life. Activities may include church activities, social clubs, community projects, etc. This gives you the opportunity to meet young people of the opposite sex in a relaxed atmosphere, that is, without the pressure of finding a life partner. You meet those who fit your character or who can complement your life.
Some make the mistake of looking for a life partner when they are ready to get married. So now there is pressure and a mistake is possible. Don’t make a decision when you’re under pressure, especially when it comes to choosing a life partner.
3. Follow the inner guide
When you have made Jesus Christ your Lord and Savior, go ahead and receive the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit dwells in you. He helps guide you when making decisions. So when choosing a life partner, listen to their spirit for guidance. Now you have an inner witness to guide you. When you meet someone who is not right for you, you will feel restlessness or a certain discomfort in your heart, that is, a lack of inner peace. So it is important to pray. But if the person you intend to marry is the right one, you will feel inner peace.
Therefore, it is important to make that decision when you are not in a rush or under pressure. This will give you time to listen to your heart as you enter into courtship with the person you love. When you experience discomfort in your heart, you can still reverse the decision if you have already made it. Some say that the person will change after marriage, but I can tell you that some things do not change. Never fool yourself. It is better to be clear before proposing or accepting a proposal. However, if you started the relationship and find out later that he is not the right match, you can still reverse the decision. Remember, you’re not married yet. God hates divorce, so you had better avoid it by being careful when choosing. So peace and joy should be your guide. Never resist what you feel in your heart.
I think these three tips will help you if you are not married yet. Embrace them because they will help you in the second most important decision of your life. God wants you to have a good life. You don’t have to carry regrets all your life. Make the right decision so you can enjoy life. God bless you.