3 Steps to Solve Every Marital Problem a Husband Will Ever Face

Marital problems vary. But their causes tend to have similar patterns. And their solutions tend to have similar patterns. Understand the principles behind the problems and their solutions, and you’ll soon find a happy husband, in a happy marriage, with a happy wife eager to please him.

Let’s go straight to them:

Step 1: Take charge of your relationship.

What does that mean? It means that the solution of your marital problems is in your hands. No one else’s. Not from your wife. Not from a friend. Not from a counselor. Their ending of the relationship is simply a reaction to you. If you end up always reacting to her, you’ll end up with a cycle of marital problems that you can’t seem to get out of.

So instead of leaving your relationship to yourself, or leaving it to your wife, take charge of it!

If her problems are about how she treats you, recognize that she is simply reacting to how you are. If you are different, your answer will be different.

Let me repeat that to you, because it all comes down to that point: if you are different, her response will be different, so don’t blame her. You may think that she is being unfair. “How could she be like that?!” Well…because she is responding to how you are with her right now, so she starts acting like your relationship is 100% in your hands.

Step 2: Appreciate that marital problems are typically emotional.

Now that you are ready to take charge of your relationship and take responsibility for it, you need to acknowledge why you are having marital problems.

Your problems are due to emotional reasons and not logical or moral reasons. They may be covered in logical or moral reasons, but those are not the real reasons. Those are simply your rationalization of your emotions. Understand that.

If you arouse the right emotions in her, you will find her rationalizing illogical and even immoral behavior. To justify, follow her emotions. Simple.

Warning: once you understand how to arouse her emotions, you will find that you have a lot of influence over her. So please use it carefully! As they say, with great power comes great responsibility.

When stirring up her emotions, you have to be a man about it and take care of your woman. Use your influence on her carefully, and she will love you and be forever grateful.

What does that mean on a practical level?

It means a few things:

Just as your marital problems are caused by pushing the wrong emotional buttons, the solution is to push the right emotional buttons. It’s that easy. That’s the good news.

It also means that you should stop trying to convince her with rational and moral arguments.

Convince her with emotional arguments.

What do I mean by “convince her” with emotional arguments? I mean influencing her by affecting her emotions, inspiring her emotions of attraction, instead of emotions of repulsion.

Because that’s all that’s happened: she’s responded to how you are with revulsion… but she can easily respond to how you are with attraction.

This brings me to the third step…

Step 3 – Push the right emotional buttons to create attraction.

It’s simple: If you make your wife more attracted to you, you’ll find that most of your marital problems will take care of themselves.

Some common marriage problems:

“My wife doesn’t listen to me.”

“My marriage feels flat.”

“My wife doesn’t respect me.”

“My wife is not interested in sex.”

Etc.

The real problem is that you are missing one or more of the fundamentals of attraction. If you make her feel attracted to you, you will find her much more attentive, exciting, playful, radiant, respectful, cheerful (in fact, giggly), seductive, and eager to please.

So make sure you maintain the basics of the attraction at all times. If you don’t already know the basics of magnetic attraction, keep reading the articles on this site.